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Writer's pictureJoëlle de Boer

Father's day....


VIP (Very important person) A message for the best (donor) father. The one that is there when I need him. I want to say thank you. And I am proud to be your daughter. -xxx- Joëlle

Today is Father's Day. A day that I celebrated with my mothers from childhood. When my sister and I made presents at school and gave them to them. Or sometimes to my dearest grandpa.❤️ I wondered since I was 8 years old. Who is the man behind the seed? Who is my (donor) father. This is the first time that I put donor in parentheses instead of father. Because I realize he was a donor to my mothers. He was not a donor to me. He is my biological father.


Although I may never bond as a daughter and father who have known each other from the beginning. Or a bond just like I have with my mothers. What does it matter.

I would like to get to know the man so that I am partly also in the world


He is a nice man. And as far as I know, we do have some things in common at the moment, in terms of appearance and interior. I have only met him twice now. But I know what I got from him. One of the most important things I wanted him to be there was him.


He was at the premiere of the documentary Vader Onbekend. Of which I was allowed to be a part. Nice things were said that day. "How alike you are, or it seems like I'm standing here talking to Joëlle again like during the interview." (The way my (donor) father and I say things)


I also found out that he had the same part-time job I have now when he was 20. So technically in terms of boy and girl brains, we would have been the same age when he had the same side job I have now. I also asked him if he would like to attend my graduation ceremony. For a long time I didn't know how to ask.


Because I couldn't have hoped he would be such a nice man and I could ever ask him. Having heard stories where things didn't turn out so well, I used to bet my hopes very, very low. That if it weren't what I'd expect, I'd be at peace with it. He said yes, I can come. I felt so happy


This is something I've wanted since I started high school. That he would see me when I graduated. And that he would see that I succeeded. I am so lucky to share my genes with such a nice man. I couldn't have wished for another nicer (donor) father. So a message for future half-brothers and half-sisters that I don't know. He is a nice man who can ask you anything.


Happy Father's Day.❤️

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