The documentary ''Vader Onbekend'' (Father Unknown) premiered on 25 March 2017.
I was there with my boyfriend, my mothers, my grandfather, my sister, and my donor. At the beginning I got there and you bonded with what you were. It was for when people wanted to talk to you.
You had the following colors:
Yellow = Donor conceived person
Green = Interested in the story but not related to any of the other things
Orange = Professional
Red = Parent
White = Donor
It was nice to see what everyone was. You did not have to ask are you a donor conceived person or parent or simply someone interested in the documentary. Besides the day of the premiere, it was also the 2nd time that I saw my donor again. Tension in my stomach about what my donor and the others in the room would think of the documentary. When I saw myself seen I thought of "how mature I speak with me being 15 years old there." Afterwards we went on stage completely being nervus. For the people in the room who already knew through the Facebook group for donor conceived people & donors. And also a lot of unknown people. But also mainly because my donor was in the room where I was most nervous about 1 question. While answering questions from the people in the audience, there was a question about how do we name our donor. For a woman who has a son because she doesn't know how to name it. I had to think for myself. I just call him when I am with others very different. My friends know that I am a donor conceived, but I often call him my donor, donor father or just donor dad.
When I was a child, I sometimes had periods when I called him my father, when I did not know who he was and I found it very difficult at times. I made drawings, wrote songs and made poems about him to give it a place in my life. And write down how badly I wanted to know who he is and if I looked like him. But now I am certainly happy that I can get to know him and that there are so many similarities.
After the premiere I met and talked a lot of people and that felt so very familiar. And it was so nice to hear that so many people saw similarities between me and my donor. People who said, "Those 2 just belong together." Or "You just speak the same way as Joëlle." This felt so nice to hear. In the end I had to be pulled aside to go home because I didn't want to leave.
Now during my last real work class for my exam my mentor got us all a lucky doll hanger. With this they wanted to wish us luck for our exam. Now I have decided to put the lucky doll on my donor conceived bracelet and wear it. For luck for my exam, but also luck for all my half brothers and sisters. Also for those I know, but also for those who are still unknown.
Happiness for them when they have to take tests or happiness in love. Simply happiness in their life. But I also wish all other donor conceived people them luck on their searches.
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